bine vs vine

if you’re a nature geek, you might know that a vine climbs via tendrils and a bine climbs by growing in a helix around the object it climbs. i’m trying to decide whether as a spouse i am a vine or a bine. there’s something a little grabby about a vine. i think i’d rather be a bine–intertwined, but not grasping. embracing but ultimately independent.

unidentified bine